Something someone said or did that you still think about

[727Sky]

I had great parents but the one thing that I will go to my grave with is what my dying wife said two days before she passed away. We were having a talk in hospital and she started to tear up... She said she was not afraid to die (she had gotten stage 4 breast cancer) but what bothered her more than anything was, "She did not want to leave me" ... We had been together 25 years when she passed away.. Her saying that one phrase still squeezes my heart when I relive that moment.

Over 1/3 million dollars ( early year 2000 dollars ) and the best medical care money could provide and she died.. Voodoo would have been less painful and probably about as good and certainly much cheaper than the American health care for profit services they provided for her.... Bastards

[Bally002]

I had great parents but the one thing that I will go to my grave with is what my dying wife said two days before she passed away. We were having a talk in hospital and she started to tear up... She said she was not afraid to die (she had gotten stage 4 breast cancer) but what bothered her more than anything was, "She did not want to leave me" ... We had been together 25 years when she passed away.. Her saying that one phrase still squeezes my heart when I relive that moment.

Over 1/3 million dollars ( early year 2000 dollars ) and the best medical care money could provide and she died.. Voodoo would have been less painful and probably about as good and certainly much cheaper than the American health care for profit services they provided for her.... Bastards

Beautiful memory to keep mate.

Mine is probably at the opposite end of the scale and not true to my mind and was the subject of a lot of gossip in my work place.  (The Police)  Working in that job I liked to think I treated people within the bounds of my office.  One day I put in for a position that was, lets say, unique.  

Word came back to me by one of my first supervising sergeants to not put in for this particular job. (Promotional job) He and his wife were good friends for me and mine.
He has since passed. He said, "They (People in the profession who would be close by) won't lookout for you.  They don't want you there.  Don't go ahead with the job there."  When I pressed him 'why?' He said,  This is between us and don't repeat it,,,to anyone,,, They reckon you're an "N' lover."  In short I pressed him for more.  He said, "The word is out that you drink with the 'N's, You sleep with them and you're an "N" lover so you'll have no support.  Anything happens to you out there you'll be left on your own."

Now this was over 20 years ago and I took that job anyway, got injured, nearly died and found out no one out that way really gave an "F".  

So I'm stuck with that memory even though I supported my Indigenous colleagues and their constituents and families and they looked after me and my family. (True love and 4 tinlids.)  But from the other side I was an "N' lover.  I ignored it but that has really stuck with me.  Even in the 2000's I did not ever think this was only too common. 

I ask myself, what did I do to deserve that tag from professionals.  I was treating everyone the same.  Good to get it off my chest.  Cheers.

Bally(