(06-22-2025, 09:42 AM)F2d5thCav Wrote: Ninurta-- I live as a resident in another country. Oddly, I gained my residence through completely legal means and I practice the very odd habit of respecting the cultural norms of the country in which I live. Our neighbors have no issues with me, imagine that.
Exactly! My Dear Old Dad taught me how to get along with "furriners", and it's really easy - you just have to respect their customs and cultural norms, and not generally be an asshole to them. He was in Germany after WWII, and the Germans all loved him where they generally disliked the other American soldiers. The difference being that most of the other soldiers were the typical "Ugly Americans", always trying to make the Germans conform to American cultural norms, and being assholes about it. Dad wasn't that way. Instead, he conformed to German norms, and was friendly to them rather than assholish.
It paid off for him at times. The Germans loved him so much that he could go AWOL, and they'd hide him from the MPs in their attics... and toss up a bottle of schnapps every now and then.
I took those lessons to heart, and they've paid off for me as well. I can get along with anyone who wants to be gotten along with. I've been told I could get along with Satan himself, although I've never tried that. I can be at home anywhere, from the ghetto (yes, I've lived in ghettos, even though I'm pretty much a white boy no one ever bothered me much) right up to hanging out with the rich folks. Same with hanging out in foreign nations. Be someone they can identify with, and you'll be accepted.
It all starts with just trying to understand their culture and conform to it rather than expecting them to conform to you. Learn the local language, that sort of thing.
There used to be a saying - "when in Rome, do as the Romans do."
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“Trouble rather the tiger in his lair than the sage among his books. For to you kingdoms and their armies are things mighty and enduring, but to him they are but toys of the moment, to be overturned with the flick of a finger.”
― Gordon R. Dickson, Tactics of Mistake
― Gordon R. Dickson, Tactics of Mistake