Blame Your Dad

[NightskyeB4Dawn]

The only thing I can blame my dad for was not being around much because of him working out of town all the time and when was home, didn't want to have anything to do with me much. 

But, because of that , it made me a better dad to my kids, spending as much time with them as I could , helping take care of them and doing chores around the house. 

So I took a negative thing and changed it into a positive thing. I hate people who blame others for all their problems. You are an adult, you are responsible for your actions.

One of those life lessons that you don't forget from childhood, came to me after being punished for hurting a kid that came after me. He rode to my house with his friends, to show off and mess with me, in my yard.

I knew if I let him get off his bike that he would likely hurt me, so I didn't let him get off his bike I knocked him off his bike and beat him with a coke bottle while he was on the ground wrapped up in his bike.

Well when my Mother found out about what happened and that the kid had been hurt pretty bad, she punished me. I did not understand why? I told her it was no my fault, that it was his fault. She asked me, "What other options could you have chosen?" Well I knew I was in big trouble because when my Mother's voice go all soft and low, and she started with the questions, you knew you had better tread lightly.
 I told her that I could have stayed in the house. I could have walked away. I could have called for help. I could have not hit him so many times.

To make a long story short, I she taught me that I am not responsible for the actions of other people, but I am responsible for my own.