My well being depends upon you to engage 'it all'

[Freija]

Nevermind, I expected nobody to get it.

Care to elaborate?

Perhaps not grasping your point or referencing whatever it is you're talking about, I'll throw in a response anyway.

Well being and happiness or in other words how you feel about your life dependent on other's engagement will always be temporary with the key being these things need to come from within rather than externally.

Life is short. Too short to not say what you mean or not be the real you in the meaningless pursuit of gaining the validation, acceptance and favor of others to make you feel whole or as measurement of your well being.

Authenticity and directness can be perceived as a challenge by those not accustomed to people behaving that way and it may come across as arrogance, rudeness or something unintended. I think it's basic human nature to want other's to like you or feel connection and be part of a group and this desire often tempers or inhibits true expression.

I recognize doing this in my own behavior at times but truly know who I really am, maybe more so than a lot of folks because I had to confront my differences early in life and in some situations, feel discretion is the better part of valor and I'll play the game like everyone else but for the most part, as those that know me will attest, I usually speak my mind without reservation. The thing is though, I really don't need anyone else to define my well being or self worth but at the same time don't want to be an asshole either but inevitably, I will piss some people off anyway. Being too real can make some people uncomfortable.

At the end of the day when it's just me, myself and I knowing what we know, we get along pretty well with ourself without anyone else's help defining us. I would not have made if very far in life without relying me, not others, to get me to this ripe old age and into the future whatever that may be.