Amazing for you to validate your own conclusions and find people who understand. I have had people try to manipulate me in many ways. Often doing this in an attempt to make me feel shame and guilt when there should have been none.
You bring up childhood experiences. One I remember when I was around three. It was summer time and I was at the zoo with my Mother, two older brothers, and my younger brother who was still in a stroller. I needed to use the bathroom, so my mother sent my two older brothers ahead to take me to the bathroom. Once we got out and were heading back, my brothers ran off in two different directions and left me alone and crying. I wandered around until a zoo employee brought me back to her workstation and asked me my name, address, and other information that I didn't know as I was just three years old. My Mother and the rest caught up with me and the only thing my brothers would say is I was dumb for not knowing my address or phone number. I probably got my name wrong too, but that isn't the point. They never got scolded or blamed for leaving me to get lost and they never apologized for doing that to me. I was the one who got lost, not my brothers ran off and left me, so I always felt that it was my fault when they abandoned me as they did. Why wouldn't I? I was the one who got lost at the zoo and that was how the story was told afterward.
Yeah, kids stuff I know, but I can imagine a lifetime of that from everyone in the family would screw you up pretty good.
You bring up childhood experiences. One I remember when I was around three. It was summer time and I was at the zoo with my Mother, two older brothers, and my younger brother who was still in a stroller. I needed to use the bathroom, so my mother sent my two older brothers ahead to take me to the bathroom. Once we got out and were heading back, my brothers ran off in two different directions and left me alone and crying. I wandered around until a zoo employee brought me back to her workstation and asked me my name, address, and other information that I didn't know as I was just three years old. My Mother and the rest caught up with me and the only thing my brothers would say is I was dumb for not knowing my address or phone number. I probably got my name wrong too, but that isn't the point. They never got scolded or blamed for leaving me to get lost and they never apologized for doing that to me. I was the one who got lost, not my brothers ran off and left me, so I always felt that it was my fault when they abandoned me as they did. Why wouldn't I? I was the one who got lost at the zoo and that was how the story was told afterward.
Yeah, kids stuff I know, but I can imagine a lifetime of that from everyone in the family would screw you up pretty good.
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