(11-29-2023, 05:37 PM)quintessentone Wrote: We as parents can only do so much then it's up to them to adapt to their world, if they can. Not everyone can be painted with the same brush so while some can handle whatever is thrown at them and come out a Phoenix, others may have other issues that trample them down and without any real help out there in the real world, they remain in the smoldering ashes
Just my 2 sense worth.
That's true. Add to that the fact that some people are just "born bad", and nothing will get through to them. They will go their own way despite whatever upbringings can be brought to bear on them. Many years ago, my police instructor put it this way "There are just some people in this world that are junk yard dog mean. There's nothing to be done for it, they just have a basic defect somewhere, one that can't be fixed no matter what you try.". Now he said that in the context of criminality, but I think it can be fairly carried over into any other area of life as well. There are just some people that can be raised the best way available, and will still turn wrong, because it's built-in to them. It's not their parents' fault, it's not society's fault, it's no one's fault - they just have a bad core, and therefore nothing there to build on.
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