Bath time epiphany

[GeauxHomeLittleD]

You could call me a hard ass because I never cut them any slack due to any of it as I knew it would not serve them well in the future to do so.

I would call you, "Tough as nails!!" and "Smart as a whip."

I will take that but even with all my efforts upon entering adulthood and starting college the oldest started hanging out with new people and the victim mentality is absolutely contagious. She changed tremendously but now in her mid 30s with a teenaged daughter of her own is finally starting to get herself back together- though it took every single member of the family (except her younger sister who gives moral support only) cutting her off in order to rectify and begin changing her learned way of thinking. It has been extremely hard but we all had to stop helping her in any way- including making sure the grandgirl had everything she needed- and became a "sink or swim" situation that landed me in therapy for a time due to worry. But she stepped up her game, cut the losers out of her life. started getting healthy and now is doing tremendously better- though we still have very little contact as I fear a backslide into her old ways and refuse to present temptation. I stay in touch with the grandgirl though and she is much happier and has an actual normal life now. Let's hope it sticks!