To all that have replied: Thank you!
While I agree that in some cases it can be laid at parents feet I have to ask myself what happened to parents that they either became too busy, too lazy or even too afraid to parent their own children. Going down that path leads me to memories of my own children growing up.
Both of my natural born children are physically disabled and one of them is also dyslexic. You could call me a hard ass because I never cut them any slack due to any of it as I knew it would not serve them well in the future to do so. They learned from the very beginning not to expect special treatment and that they needed to work extra hard to make it in life. I had to fight the school system every step of the way as they were damned and determined to turn my children into "victims".
I remember a few incidents that stick out most. When my oldest started school she got into a row with another child over a favored toy. Rather than disciplining her (stand in a corner, sit out recess, whatever) their reaction to this very first time of making trouble was to try to bully me into putting her on medication. They even explained to me that it was "no big deal" as over half of the children in her class were already on medication. Over HALF! In Pre-K! Of course I refused as the incident was just kids behaving like kids and had to threaten to involve the family lawyer to force them to have her sit out recess for a few days because according to them "that is too harsh"- but drugging them isn't. I followed up by popping in during recess time to assure it was done and there were no more problems after that. Also we found out that she had an extremely high IQ and was "gifted" which we wouldn't have found out had we drugged her up into a zombie.
When the youngest was in third grade and report cards came she was failing a few classes so I scheduled a meeting with her teachers. I was led to a room and sat in a chair in the center of the room surrounded by a circle of chairs filled by all of her teachers- not just the ones whose classes she was failing. The younger teachers did all the speaking and basically all ganged up and tried to intimidate me into putting her on medication- not for bad behavior as she was one of their best behaved students but because she wouldn't stay focused when it came to reading only. They insisted that I MUST put her on ADD/ADHD meds and that neglecting to do so was the equivalent of child abuse and one even threatened to call CPS if I refused. I told her to shut the fuck up (yes, I said that!) and asked the very quiet 2 older teachers what they thought- the answer they both gave is that she wasn't hyper in any way but that she might have a reading disability. It turned out that they were correct, after much testing and a pretty purple overlay for reading my child went from failing to making all A's with no drugs involved.
This was back in the 90s, I can only imagine the pressure and threats that parents receive today. I feel that many parents are AFRAID to properly parent their children. The schools push drugs where none are needed and threaten parents who refuse. I was that bitch who refused anyway and dared them to mess with my kids in that way but most were too afraid to stand up to the schools and drugged their kids rather than fight for them.
So yes, parents are at fault for that but at some point the children all grow into adults and must become responsible for their own actions. While how a child was raised may stick with them through life in some ways ultimately as adults we choose for ourselves. My lifelong BFF (may she rest in peace) was one of those parents who DID drug her children at the school's insistence. Her oldest is still on drugs (even though there is nothing wrong with him other than never being punished for wrong doings because "muh illness") but her middle child upon reaching high school informed his mother that he refused to take those drugs anymore and that there was nothing wrong with him and never had been- and he was correct! He is the most successful and well adjusted of her children and has always been my personal favorite. The youngest has been on drugs since before she was a year old and is a spoiled, entitled cunt that nobody can stand being around- and I don't fling the "C" word around loosely! Why in the Hell would doctors insist on drugging babies? And yet BFF was also threatened with CPS and having ALL of her children taken away if she did not comply. She wasn't as big of a bitch as me so she complied rather than risk it.
So we have responsible parents, schools, doctors and CPS for drugging the kids and convincing them they are victims but they are adults now. Just as all of us were "programmed" by our families and society in general eventually we grew up, went out on our own and began to experience life with new eyes. We learned that the things we were taught weren't necessarily correct and started determining what was right and wrong by our own life experiences. It is a necessary part of growing up, just like discovering that Santa, the Tooth Fairy and the Easter Bunny were just our parents injecting a little magic into our lives. We must upon adulthood learn that our values, attitudes and actions as adults are purely our own responsibilities. If a 35 year old man commits armed robbery and kills several people in the process who should be held responsible? Should he be responsible for his actions or should he blame mommy and daddy for not giving him enough hugs as a child and they go to prison in his place?
Just something to contemplate. Peace!
While I agree that in some cases it can be laid at parents feet I have to ask myself what happened to parents that they either became too busy, too lazy or even too afraid to parent their own children. Going down that path leads me to memories of my own children growing up.
Both of my natural born children are physically disabled and one of them is also dyslexic. You could call me a hard ass because I never cut them any slack due to any of it as I knew it would not serve them well in the future to do so. They learned from the very beginning not to expect special treatment and that they needed to work extra hard to make it in life. I had to fight the school system every step of the way as they were damned and determined to turn my children into "victims".
I remember a few incidents that stick out most. When my oldest started school she got into a row with another child over a favored toy. Rather than disciplining her (stand in a corner, sit out recess, whatever) their reaction to this very first time of making trouble was to try to bully me into putting her on medication. They even explained to me that it was "no big deal" as over half of the children in her class were already on medication. Over HALF! In Pre-K! Of course I refused as the incident was just kids behaving like kids and had to threaten to involve the family lawyer to force them to have her sit out recess for a few days because according to them "that is too harsh"- but drugging them isn't. I followed up by popping in during recess time to assure it was done and there were no more problems after that. Also we found out that she had an extremely high IQ and was "gifted" which we wouldn't have found out had we drugged her up into a zombie.
When the youngest was in third grade and report cards came she was failing a few classes so I scheduled a meeting with her teachers. I was led to a room and sat in a chair in the center of the room surrounded by a circle of chairs filled by all of her teachers- not just the ones whose classes she was failing. The younger teachers did all the speaking and basically all ganged up and tried to intimidate me into putting her on medication- not for bad behavior as she was one of their best behaved students but because she wouldn't stay focused when it came to reading only. They insisted that I MUST put her on ADD/ADHD meds and that neglecting to do so was the equivalent of child abuse and one even threatened to call CPS if I refused. I told her to shut the fuck up (yes, I said that!) and asked the very quiet 2 older teachers what they thought- the answer they both gave is that she wasn't hyper in any way but that she might have a reading disability. It turned out that they were correct, after much testing and a pretty purple overlay for reading my child went from failing to making all A's with no drugs involved.
This was back in the 90s, I can only imagine the pressure and threats that parents receive today. I feel that many parents are AFRAID to properly parent their children. The schools push drugs where none are needed and threaten parents who refuse. I was that bitch who refused anyway and dared them to mess with my kids in that way but most were too afraid to stand up to the schools and drugged their kids rather than fight for them.
So yes, parents are at fault for that but at some point the children all grow into adults and must become responsible for their own actions. While how a child was raised may stick with them through life in some ways ultimately as adults we choose for ourselves. My lifelong BFF (may she rest in peace) was one of those parents who DID drug her children at the school's insistence. Her oldest is still on drugs (even though there is nothing wrong with him other than never being punished for wrong doings because "muh illness") but her middle child upon reaching high school informed his mother that he refused to take those drugs anymore and that there was nothing wrong with him and never had been- and he was correct! He is the most successful and well adjusted of her children and has always been my personal favorite. The youngest has been on drugs since before she was a year old and is a spoiled, entitled cunt that nobody can stand being around- and I don't fling the "C" word around loosely! Why in the Hell would doctors insist on drugging babies? And yet BFF was also threatened with CPS and having ALL of her children taken away if she did not comply. She wasn't as big of a bitch as me so she complied rather than risk it.
So we have responsible parents, schools, doctors and CPS for drugging the kids and convincing them they are victims but they are adults now. Just as all of us were "programmed" by our families and society in general eventually we grew up, went out on our own and began to experience life with new eyes. We learned that the things we were taught weren't necessarily correct and started determining what was right and wrong by our own life experiences. It is a necessary part of growing up, just like discovering that Santa, the Tooth Fairy and the Easter Bunny were just our parents injecting a little magic into our lives. We must upon adulthood learn that our values, attitudes and actions as adults are purely our own responsibilities. If a 35 year old man commits armed robbery and kills several people in the process who should be held responsible? Should he be responsible for his actions or should he blame mommy and daddy for not giving him enough hugs as a child and they go to prison in his place?
Just something to contemplate. Peace!
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