(11-29-2023, 09:29 AM)Ninurta Wrote: You know, it kind of IS their parents' faults. Not for the reasons they blame their parents for, but because those parents were too lazy to parent them to begin with, too lazy to prepare them for life in the real world.
So their "victim mentality" CAN be set down at the feet of their parents - parents who took the time to have rug-rats, but then left them to their own devices in dealing with reality, rather than guiding and teaching them how it really is.
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I have presented both my children with a reality that says, 'You better be able to take care of yourself, because nobody else is going to' They are both strong, capable and self-supporting. No student loans, no roomates, one has raised 2 kids themselves.
The daughter tho', she has that victim menatlity, even while she succeeds in taking care of herself, and has always always been her own worst enemy.
Parents are the front line, and should be held responsible to the job they did raising proper good people. But the social environment and keeping all those influences away from your kids and yet educating them about those influences so that they are run down by them when they turn 18 and go out into the world on their own. It's more than a full time job, and in most cases, even in intact 2 parent families, people have to work, sometiomes both, or 2 jobs. That requires 2 healthy strong people committed to being together to make it work. It's a TALL order these days.
Some people say social problems that don't involve me arent my business.... yeah they are, because they are the environment my family has to remain strong in.